There were two bad incidents on the soccer pitch this weekend and I would love to hear your thoughts on them.
Of course I will tell you mine.
1. Celine’s soccer team beat a team 5-0 in the Novi Jaguars Tournament and there was controversy at the end. The backup coach left early in the second half because he had a long day and the game was decided a long time ago. He asked me and another parent to monitor the team. We did. After the game I said congrats to the team and when I saw how frizzed Celine’s hair was I quipped “that a sparrow could live in your hair.” It looked like a bird’s nest and the girls laughed.
During the team hand shake of our girls said to the coach. “Good coaching.”
He went off. He said our team was disrespectful because of her comment. And that we were mocking and making fun of his team. He said he did not appreciate us laughing at them. I stepped in and told him we were not laughing at his team. He would have none of it and after screaming at the other parent, he stalked off and talked to his team.
The girl said she tells coaches good coaching after games because he did not actually play so instead of saying good game, she said good coaching.
Did she break an unwritten rule? Did we break protocol? Or was this coach just pissed about losing?
Brandon missed his soccer game to participate in the math pentathlon. I’ve always told my wife Abs that if he does not play games could get out of hand. Well this game did and parents were dogging the non paid volunteer coach during the game. Basically they said he could not coach and that he did not play their sons long enough or the right way.
He is a volunteer coach. He does not get paid. He puts his own time and money into it. I know I don’t have time to do what he does so I keep my mouth shut and congratulate the team win or lose after games. There are things he could do differently and I only know after watching Celine’s games. But it is his show and I believe a parent should be a parent and a coach a coach. And the dude works hard.
Question. Were the parents out of line talking about the guy? And is my approach of just letting him do his thing the right approach? Should I offer advice although I am not a soccer coach or an expert on the game?
Other than that we had a good weekend. Celine’s team won their division. Brandon did not do well in the math pentathlon but he learned some valuable lessons.