I could tell my friend in Florida was upset. There were long pauses between conversations.
“What’s up,” I asked.
“Nothing,” she said.
I told her I was not stupid and for the next 15 minutes her story unfolded. I will change names to protect people, but her daughter Darla is a member of the high school cheer team. She is a sophomore and has always enjoyed jumping on couches and screaming. She is a cute and dainty child who is now beginning to discover womanhood.
The other night she had a couple of her cheer buddies over for a sleep over. They enjoyed pizza, went through some cheers and watched television. It was a typical girls night filled with laughter and stupid talk about boys and school and how they hated Mr. Dumplings the principal. It was past midnight when mom went upstairs to tell the girls to knock it off and go to sleep.
When she did mom caught two of the girls kissing. Their bottoms were on but their tops were off. They stopped and turned red and said they were just playing around.
Later the daughter admitted that three or four of the girls on a 25 member cheer squad kiss sometimes and that the girls touched each other on the breast, but that is as far as they went. There was no sex. It was just girls exploring.
The mom told me she never did that as a child. She grew up in a strict family in Michigan and never dreamed of doing something like that because her family would kill her. She wanted to know if she had a problem or was this just girls exploring one another and that this will disappear? I admitted I had no answers. I did not know if this was a problem or a phase.
The mom said it doesn’t bother her if Darla is bi-sexual, gay or straight. She was just shocked to see what she did.
I asked if it would bother if Darla kissed a boy. She said no. But it is the semi-nudity that worried her. She wants to end all sleepovers.
I bring this to the people. What do you think about this? I would love to hear from parents with teenage girls. Do you have advice for my friend? Is this normal behavior for young girls? I quite frankly did not know what to tell her. She reads comments here and on my face book and twitter pages.
Can you help or advise?