Sometimes being a parent is about making tough decisions or compromises. I found myself in that predicament Saturday night when one child wanted to stay at a party and be with her friends while another was breaking down and wanted to go home. I call it the two on one break down.
Here is the situation. My daughter Celine celebrated a three show run of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream coat at Gino’s restaurant in Keego Harbor. The Abbott Middle School Theater played at West Bloomfield High School and it was an amazingly good production filled with music, professional looking props and special effects. Celine is a seventh grader and played a nice but minor role in the production. The eighth graders were great.
Afterwards the parents and children went to Gino’s. I took Celine and my son Brandon to the post production party for pizza and bread sticks. Brandon was fine for the first half hour but after we ate he wanted to go home. Celine was still enjoying a good time with her cast mates was in no mood to leave. And after all the work they went through I did not want to cut her fun short. Believe me when I say these kids worked their tails off for an entire week.
She missed three days of school for all-day sessions and they had regular practice from 6-9 pm four nights last week.
Back at Gino’s Celine was giddy and Brandon grumpy.
“I am tired,” he said. “Can you tell Celine we want to leave?”
I told him no. This was Celine’s night and I wanted her to enjoy it. We must take one for the team. I told B to come sit next to me and lay his head in my lap. He did that. I held his head, gave him a back rub and allowed him to relax and doze off. After 20 minutes I told Celine we must leave. She understood and the problem was resolved.
We always find ourselves in situations where one kid wants to do one thing and the other something else. We cannot always find compromises but it sure feels good when we can.