We fill our dates with soccer practices and games for the kids. Then there are the concerts, plays and movie nights at school. She is the PTA President and is active in two charity groups and my days are filled with two jobs, games, bar appearances and speeches.
What we haven’t done is fill in a spot for dates for mom and dad. We’ve gone out to dinner about six times the past month — all the time with the kids. We rarely have alone time in the fall. There is just too much going on.
Two weeks ago I was excited because it was a Friday and I remember the date book was empty that day. I called her for a last minute date.
“Oh I forgot to tell you. The kids are having a movie night.” she said. “You don’t have to come.”
I usually stop some place for a meal and a couple beers before returning home and relaxing after a hard week on the job.
There won’t be a date this Friday either because of a school activity. On Saturday Celine and mom will be in Saginaw because her forensics team advanced to the regionals and my date will be my son Little B. Last weekend the house was filled with relatives because we hosted Ab’s sister Big Pretty’s wedding shower lunch at Bravo in Livonia.
Our schedules won’t be as hectic soon and we can resume date night. Our dates are not real exciting but they are important. We usually go to a movie and dinner and talk about stopping some place for coffee or wine. We rarely get to the coffeee stop because we are too tired and return home to crash.
But date night is important because we get to talk and laugh and just enjoy each other. I know a number of couples who are in the same rut that we are in. There is plenty of family time but there is not as much alone time. I love going to dinner with the kids and taking them to Dave and Busters. It is great.
But sometimes you want to hold hands with your bride and relax. We need a date night soon.