I sat next to a delightful and talkative woman on Thursday while waiting to give blood at the doctor’s office. She was 85 years old and was nervous about doing blood work following her exam.
We talked about family, our past and future and she leaned in and said: “And I have a gentleman friend. He is 93.”
She was married twice, had three children from the first marriage and five years ago her second husband died. She was alone and wanted company. So a friend of a friend introduced her to a man who also lost his wife. They are constant companions. As soon as she told me her story another man came limping in with his wife saying they have been married 71 years. That is amazing.
It got me to thinking. What will my relationship with my wife be like when we are older and walking kind of funny. Will we have sex? Can we have sex? Do we even want to even have sex?
Yes, that was the first thing on my mind. The lady told me it is about companionship. It was about having someone to talk to and share things with.
“I like having a man around. I love talking to them as opposed to women,” she said with a chuckle.
I’ve heard that some of the biggest players in the world are the dudes in the seniors home. The women love them and bake cookies, cook dinner for them and iron their clothes. The man is like a lion in a den and women do so much to garner their attention. The dudes sit back and enjoy the attention.
Now I see what’s in it for us guys when we get older.