She wears a house coat and slippers and sit sits on her porch puffing on a cigarette. I see the woman often after dropping my son off to school.
She has kids. She gets them ready and when the house is empty she kicks back and has a few minutes of peace and quiet. I wonder what goes through her mind as she looks into the air and exhales. We all need it. You need it. I need it. We just need a few moments to ourselves where we can collect our thoughts and relax.
Back in the day fathers used to come home from work, retreat to the study and enjoy a glass of scotch. It was their time to unwind before shifting from work crisis to family crisis. My favorite time of the week is Friday evening when I can come home, sit in the back yard and enjoy dinner or a few minutes alone.
The kids are playing next door and the wife is usually upstairs or at a meeting. It is my time to unwind and collect myself. We are running 100 miles per hour in our lives. There is work, family, meetings, transportation and children fighting for your time. There are people calling the house, fires to put out and places to be.
Alone time is not only important but it is healthy. I don’t need much. A few minutes here and a few minutes there. I close my eyes, calm my body and then get ready to face the next crisis. I bet that is what that woman in the house coat dragging on that cigarette does. She’s gotten the kids out the house and she is just having a moment for herself before moving on to the next chore.
The calm moments don’t last long but they sure feel good.