She is sort of not talking to me but at the same time she does talk to me when she forgets why she is mad at me.
My transgression is I am considering moving her to a different soccer team after five years with the Bloomfield Hills Force. She was in favor of the move during the season. We’d all grown frustrated and wanted to try something new. Moving to a new team is easy but at the same time it is not.
The way it works in soccer is you practice with a team you are interested in playing for. This week Celine will practice with the Michigan Jaguars in Novi and Waza East in Rochester. It is like going to the bar to pick up girls. You go there and practice. Do you like them? Do they like you?
Saturday and Sunday are tryout days and they are usually stressful for most people.
If it is a match you hook up and become a team for a year. If they don’t like you then you move on to the next club.
I’ve moved my son Brandon a couple of times and it was no big deal. Celine is a different story. She cried after her last game Sunday and in turn so did I. I have a difficult time moving on from something even if I think it is the right thing to do. I grabbed a couple of parents and asked that their daughters remain friends with Celine.
At lot runs through your mind when you are considering leaving. Celine has met a bunch of good friends, won some tournaments, got blown out of others and we had some eventful road trips to Kentucky, Indiana, Ohio and Michigan. Celine was even part of a 3v3 team that advanced to nationals and finished 16 in the nation in her age group.
And there has been trips to the apple orchard, the pool and sleep overs galore. So why move? I want her to be challenged more. Celine is a good soccer player that got stale this season. Part of it was a foot injury that took her out for two months. And part of it is she is becoming a dead teenager that does not want to leave her room. If you let her she’d spend the entire day in her room on the phone and kicking a soccer ball off the wall.
She is also tiny and is playing an age group up. She will be 12 and later 13 years old playing with girls who are 14 and 15. Celine plays like a maniac sometimes and does not back down. My fear is injuries will hamper her against bigger and older girls. I want her back in her age group.
I believe she needs a shake up. And I believe she will be around more talented players and good coaching.
But could I be wrong?
I am sure you guys have had to make tough decisions for your kids. Do you ever feel like you are doing the wrong thing although deep down you believe it is the right thing?