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Why can’t we be friends?

So when is a friend no longer a friend?

I think I lost a friend. It won’t be the first time and it won’t be the last. People come and go in your life. I’ve had high school buddies drop off the face of the Earth. The same happened in college.

We are tight for four or five years. We move to different cities, get new jobs, build families and we make new friends. Older friends slide off the radar. There are no fights. No hard feelings. Life happens. We are in a spinning cycle and sometimes good buddies fall away.

This last one kind of bothers me. We were friends for years. They worked here, got a new job in a different city and we were still buddies. Then two years ago the communications stopped. I tried to reach out a few times but no response. Our last communications were friendly and we promised to meet up.

And then boom goes the dynamite.

So does that mean you are no longer friends or is this a case of life happens?

I am really confused. This friend pops into town. No call. No email. Nothing.

They meet with other people but I only find out they are in town after they’ve left town.

Maybe it is my breath. Maybe they outgrew me. Damn, I didn’t even get a T-shirt.

I should not complain. I had to drop friends because they were too dangerous for me. While I tried to build a career they could not put away the crime, the booze and drugs. I didn’t want to be like Jalen Rose and get caught in a crack house and be on the 6 o’clock news.

Friendships end for a variety of reasons. I just can’t figure out this one.

September 30, 2014

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